What to do with compliments
Gustong gusto ko yung isang sinabi ni Matthew Dicks sa libro nyang Someday is Today. Tungkol ‘to sa mga compliments.
Sabi daw kase sa pag-aaral, kailangan mong makarinig ng halos anim (5.6) na papuri para ma-kontra ang epekto sayo ng isang negatibong komento. That’s a 5.6:1 ratio. Mahirap yun balansihin kung naghihintay ka lang ng magandang komento na ibibigay sayo.
Kaya sabi ni pareng Matthew:
“You must manufacture the ratio by collecting the positive statements of folks who would otherwise be forgotten and use those words on those days when:
you awaken lacking the enthusiasm to dive into the day.
some monster has hindered your momentum with a few words of criticism or doubt.
you start to wonder whether the work you are doing is worthy of continuing.
it feels like the world has decided to place its boot on your neck and remind you of how little power you really have.
In these times of need, this collection of compliments might just save you”.
Sayang kelan ko lang ‘to nalaman. Marami-raming compliments na din siguro ang nalimutan nalang.
Kaya nung tinanong si Aeriel kung sinong favorite author nya tapos pangalan ko ang sagot nya, pinasok ko na agad sa kolekyon ko.
That was one of the sweetest compliment I ever got. Di ko na papaliwanag kung bakit at kung gano yun kalalim para sakin.
At sa lahat ng taong binigyan ako ng magagandang salita, pasensya na kung nalimutan ko sila.
Pasensya na din kung parang akong introvert na kinantahan ng happy birthday nung sinabi nyo yun sakin — awkward, may pilit na ngiti, at di alam kung san ilalagay ang mga kamay.
